Rekhi Foundation for Happiness Mind Lab MIND Lab, Chandigarh University
Where you stand

When the unwritten deal breaks

A social contract is the promise nobody wrote down: effort for recognition, loyalty for security, care for care. It breaks quietly, then loudly. This page does not ask you to do anything. It asks what has already happened, and reads it back as odds.

Stages 1–4 are evidence. Past tense throughout. An unanswered question and a stated intention both count zero — nothing here is a task you are failing.

Stage 5 is the choice. What you answer in stage 2 decides what the later stages ask and which two futures stage 5 compares.

01

The signals

Evidence
What this asks Which signals are present today — not which you should be looking for. Tap to record, tap again to remove. Only tick what you can point to. Behavioural signals weigh heaviest, because by the time they show, the breach has stopped being private.

Which of these are present?

Emotional

Felt heat. Fast to appear, slow to leave.

Cognitive

The private accounting. Where the story hardens.

Behavioural

The contract being rewritten in actions.

Nothing recorded yet 0 of 11 signals

Intensity rises fastest when private feeling turns into public behaviour.

02

What was said

Evidence

This stage decides what the next three ask

What this asks Whether the breach has been spoken about — and if so, how it went.
03

What was given

Evidence

What this asks
04

What it's worth

Evidence

What this asks Judge the future only. What you have already invested is gone whichever way this goes, so it is not a reason to stay.

1. If this ended, what would you lose?

Count only what is still ahead — income, people, standing, opportunities.

2. What is carrying this costing you?

The ongoing drain of the resentment, not the original incident.

3. If you walked away, what is waiting?

Leaving is only a real option if there is somewhere to go. Otherwise the honest version of disengaging is to stay and withdraw the goodwill.

4. Has this happened before?

The heaviest answer on the page. A one-off can be repaired; a habit can only be managed or left.

  • What you'd lose –
  • What carrying it costs –
  • Net –
  • Alternative –

Answer questions 1 and 2 and the scale will tip.

Scale weighing what you would lose against what carrying it costs Staying Carrying it
05

The choice

Choice

What this is Change any answer above and every number here updates. A 55/45 split is a genuinely open question — the right response to one is to buy information, not to commit.

The fork

What is still open

      What would move the odds most

      Each line re-runs the board with one thing different — including things you don't control. The biggest number is where the situation is most sensitive, which is not always where your effort can reach.

        If you take the leading option

          Set the review date

          An open-ended wait is how repair quietly becomes tolerance. Pick the date you re-run this, and decide now what visible change would count by then.

          The evidence ledger

            The arithmetic

            Nothing here is measured. Every percentage comes from the weights below, applied to your own answers — so you can disagree with a number by disagreeing with a weight.